{"id":1336,"date":"2022-07-19T13:55:14","date_gmt":"2022-07-19T18:55:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/originalorknot.com\/?p=1336"},"modified":"2022-07-19T13:55:15","modified_gmt":"2022-07-19T18:55:15","slug":"these-days","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/originalorknot.com\/?p=1336","title":{"rendered":"These days"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I&#8217;m not sure when I gave up on not just dissolving into tears at random moments, but it&#8217;s been a little while now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Can&#8217;t say for sure what exactly was the tipping point\u2014was it our elderly pets having crises in quick succession? (Things aren&#8217;t looking good for Rocky, our other orange tabby cat. That&#8217;s three in 7 months.) The obscene heatwave we&#8217;re in, and being keenly aware of how my generation failed to do what we should have about climate change? The state of the world? The state of the US? A Belgian expat pointed out in conversation yesterday that fascism* invariably collapses under its own weight, eventually. But there will be a lot of very sad stories until then. Or could it be the sure knowledge that my loved ones and I are\u2026well, old? And things are happening (and will happen faster and more frequently as time passes) that are both unpleasant and unavoidable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I guess it does matter what triggered this, if only for knowing how\u2014and if\u2014it&#8217;ll end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A few days ago, I read a wonderful <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/AnneLamott\/posts\/585135099641667\" target=\"_blank\">OpEd by Anne Lamott<\/a>. It (almost magically) restored and renewed my faith, and I hope she senses just a tiny fraction of how grateful and relieved I am for that. Here are a few points (some quoted and some paraphrased) that I&#8217;m barely hanging onto:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Prayer connects us umbilically to a spirit both outside and within us, who hears and answers.<\/li><li>I am barely even a speck in infinite space, helpless, needy and worried. There&#8217;s nothing I can do except send my love into that which is so much bigger than me.<\/li><li>I pray to be a good servant.<\/li><li>I pray to be ever mindful of the needs of the poor.<\/li><li>I pray for all of us, especially my loved ones and my sick friends, that we all have days of grace and healing and peace.<\/li><li>I love them, and have no idea what to do, except to hold them in my heart and turn them over to something that might do better than me.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Then she adds to that last one, &#8220;And I hear what to do next.&#8221; She&#8217;s got me beat on that one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Icelanders have an expression, <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.sensualiceland.com\/post\/%C3%BEetta-reddast\" target=\"_blank\">very nearly the national motto<\/a>: &#8220;<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.pursuitcollection.com\/stories\/%C3%BEetta-reddast-wisdom-for-turbulent-times\/\" target=\"_blank\">\u00deetta reddast<\/a>.&#8221; Things will work out okay. I realize that&#8217;s completely accurate, but I wonder if I&#8217;ll be around\/survive\/hang on to my sanity\/live long enough\u2026or care\u2026when it finally does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In the meantime, I&#8217;ll carry a hanky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-3 wp-block-group\">\n<p class=\"has-small-font-size\"><br \/><em>*If you want to argue with me that what we&#8217;re seeing isn&#8217;t fascism, please just assume you did and this is how I responded: &#8220;Dear Sir or Madam, You may be right at that. Sincerely\u2026.<\/em>&#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-2 wp-block-group\">\n<div class=\"is-vertical is-layout-flex wp-container-1 wp-block-group\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m not sure when I gave up on not just dissolving into tears at random moments, but it&#8217;s been a little while now. 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